27-year-old woman uses ex-boyfriend's therapist to try to get him back: 'Get out of my life!'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Nov 16, 2024 2:00 PM EST

This was anything but a clean break.

Obviously, breaking up with a long-term partner can be complicated, whether it's dealing with the concrete logistics of moving out or the emotional adjustments of being single again. Even when it seems like the breakup was mutually agreed upon for both parties, it's quite possible that deep down, one person wanted this far more than the other, as was the case with this Redditor and his now ex-girlfriend.

His ex made it crystal clear following their breakup that she still had feelings for him and wanted closure. He tried to avoid these conversations, considering the fact that they already unpacked everything multiple times and knowing that it would not lead to anywhere productive. So, his ex took matters into her own hands, first reaching out to the Redditor's family for answers and then trying to book sessions with his therapist.

Keep scrolling below to find out how the original poster (OP) reacted when he found out about her new scheme. For more stories like this, check out this post about two rebellious teenagers and their malicious compliance.

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    What did his therapist say?
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    AIO for yelling at my ex on the phone before blocking her for booking two sessions with my therapist a week after our breakup?
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    I [28M] ended a year-long relationship with my ex [27F] after constant arguing and walking on eggshells. She's diagnosed with PTSD and has been in weekly therapy since I've known her. I've been seeing my therapist monthly for two years, and she's known my therapist's name since we started dating.
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    I ended things in person, and it seemed amicable. We talked for over an hour, cried, and hugged. A couple of days later, we exchanged our belongings. I
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    didn't let her into my apartment because she had recorded one of our arguments without telling me, which made me feel unsafe. We met in a conference room and talked for over an hour and she apologized for how she treated
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    me, but also said she still wanted to work things out. I told her I wasn't interested and that we should exchange our stuff and go our separate ways. She got defensive, saying she had a right
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    to closure and said she really wanted to get back together and be physical in my apartment. I declined, saying that it wasn't a good idea, and we parted ways.
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    She told me I wasn't man enough to be with her and I'm living my life in fear, and that I didn't satisfy her physically as much as she wanted during our relationship.
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    Two days later, she showed up at my apartment with food, saying she still cared about me and wanted to be together. I told her again that I needed space and didn't want any more contact,
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    including gifts. There was sual tension, and she told me she wanted to have s but I held firm and told her it was over.
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    The next day, I found out she had contacted both my mom and sister to process the breakup. While that frustrated me, I let it go because my family said the conversations were civil. My mom and sister have stopped all contact with her since.
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    A few days later, I got a message from my therapist saying my ex had booked two virtual sessions with him. He didn't realize she was my ex until the first session
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    had already started, but assured me he hadn't disclosed anything from our sessions. However, she gave him permission to share what they talked about with me.
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    I called her and told her that what she did was unacceptable, that I was tired of her ignoring my boundaries, and that her actions felt manipulative. She apologized but said booking my therapist
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    was none of my business. She then accused me of gaslighting and manipulation, and said we should block each other. I agreed, yelled "GET OUT OF MY LIFE," and blocked her.
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    Now I feel bad for losing my temper and yelling at her, but I also feel like it was the only way she would take me seriously. It
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    sks because this situation has made appreciating the good times in our relationship together tough and I feel resentful. AIO?
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    . Lazy-Discussio... 12h ago I get why you feel bad for yelling, but honestly, her actions were pretty disrespectful of your boundaries. It's understandable you were frustrated, especially after everything she put you through. It might have been better to stay calm, but you were trying to protect yourself.
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    Harlotte Hoeha... 12h ago Nor she is clearly insane. If she contacts you again get a restraining order.
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    KiWi_Nugget868 • 11h ago . Your therapist would be having a conflict of interest with talking to your ex. Your ex did this on purpose. Either find a new therapist or tell your therapist you don't want any info about her, and you're placing a restraining order.. which you need to do
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